毫无疑问，人类与物体有着自然的联系，因为我们都有物质需求，而正是通过这些物体，我们才能控制这些需求。承运人在其随笔中陈述;“礼物和商品”，“人类确实有物质需要，而物品可以满足他们”(Carrier, 1995)。正如我前面所说，我们需要物质的原因有很多，其中一个原因是它们有助于定义和展示我们的社会，我们的身份和我们的个性。正是因为这个原因，我们与物质对象有着如此深刻的联系，因为只要社会继续存在，对物质对象的需求也会继续存在。然而，这篇文章，也不是Carrier的文章，关于人，身份和物质对象之间的联系，而是，正如Carrier所说，我们将“研究对象在人际关系中的牵连方式，而不是在意义和身份的大量结构中看到它们”(Carrier, 1995)。10)。为了充分理解这一主题，我们必须首先看一看什么是所谓的互惠，互惠是用来描述商品和劳动力交换的术语。它被分为几个独立的术语，即广义互惠、平衡或对称互惠和负互惠。最适用于送礼仪式的术语是广义互惠，因为它被描述为赠送或分享的事件。它的定义是某一个人与他所在社会中需要他的货物或劳动的另一个人分享他的专门知识而不期望任何回报。然而这并不事件定义为“互惠”者不期望任何回报,但这种交互确实是“互惠”的人给他的货物是克服这样的满意度给他服务,事实上,它会创建一个给予者和接受者之间的社会关系,这就是他达到以换取商品或服务。在现代社会，这似乎主要发生在父母和孩子之间，或已婚夫妇之间，因为似乎有一定的信任和社会互动涉及的人在事件。也正是通过这些与他人的交易，帮助定义我们的身份，而不仅仅是那个物质对象本身。开利自己说过;事实上，在某种程度上，交易创造了交易参与者的身份。”(载体。1995。35)这些相互作用的事件有助于定义我们与他人的关系，正如我之前说过的，通过这些事件，我们可以与他人建立社会联系，但我们也需要与同一个人进行一定量的社会互动，然后我们才能参与到这样的交易中。
It goes without a doubt that humans have a natural affiliation with objects as we all have a material need and it is through these objects that we can control these needs. Carrier states in his essay; “Gifts and Commodities” that “Humans do have material needs, and objects can satisfy them” (Carrier, 1995. 1). As I stated earlier we need material objects for a variety of reasons, one of which is for them help define and show our society both our identity and our personality. It is for this reason that we have such a deep connection with material objects, because as long as society continues to exist so will the need for material objects. However this essay, nor is Carrier’s essay, about the connection between people, identity and material objects but instead, as Carrier puts it, we are going to “investigate the ways that objects are implicated in personal relationships, rather than seeing them in mass structures of meaning and identity” (Carrier, 1995. 10). In order to get a full understanding of such a topic we must first take a look at what is known as reciprocity, reciprocity is a term used to describe the exchange of goods and labour. It was separated into a few separate terms know as, generalized reciprocity, balanced or Symmetrical reciprocity and negative reciprocity. The term which most applies to the ceremony of gift giving is generalized reciprocity as it is described as the event of giving or sharing. It is defined as when a certain individual shares his expertise with another individual in his society who is in need of his goods or labour without expecting anything in return. However this does not define the event as “reciprocal” as the giver expects nothing in return, but this interaction is indeed “reciprocal” as the individual who gives his goods is overcome by such satisfaction in giving his services, and the fact that it creates a social bond between the giver and the receiver and that is what he attains in return for his goods or services. In modern day society this seems to occur mainly between parents and children or within married couples as there seems to be a certain amount of trust and social interaction involved between the people within the event. It is through these transactions with other people that also help define our identity, not just that material object itself. Carrier himself says that; “Indeed, in some ways transaction creates the very identities of those involved in it.” (Carrier. 1995. 35) These, reciprocal events help define our relationships with other people, as I said before through these events we can gain social bonds with people but we also need certain amount of social interaction with that same person before we can involve ourselves in such a transaction.